The Famous Double Standards

You gotta' love people's definition of prejudice. What do I mean exactly?

Men who are homophobic , but think "lesbians are hot", and of course that makes up for them not liking gay men. Saying lesbians are acceptable, but gay men are "gross" is a common double standard. 

One of my favorites is : "Well I have a gay friend." Just because you can possibly be around one gay/lesbian person, doesn't mean your not prejudice. Chances are you even use their orientation against them at times.

Then you have the idea of military, and marriage.

"I support gay people, but marriage is a sacred thing between a man and a woman." You support their orientation, but not their right to have legal benefits or the security of marriage? 

Then you have my best friend's type...raised by a military family, proud to be an American, and not definitely  racist. But as we know the military has no tolerance for "queers". Earlier today my friend said "I love gay people, I love you don't I?" I replied, "I'm not gay though, I'm Bisexual." 

Later I quote him uttering, "They can be in the military, but I just don't want two dudes doing it in the tent next to mine...or I don't want some guy all yeeesss siirrrrr, heehee." 

Gay males are portrayed as feminine , and  ridiculous constantly.  There are so many gay men serving in the military that people don't know about. Those people aren't fairly obvious "fags". There are many gay men who are very masculine, and inclined to serve. 

Not only gay men are discriminated in the military; there are commonly bi sexual man in the military as well. The thing is though bi sexual men have an easier time conforming to being "straight", because they have attraction to the opposite sex as well, and they usually favor women. 

Females are being discharged for being lesbians now too, and many lesbians don't even enroll to serve any more. 

Don't give me a double standard. This isn't a "straight man's" world anymore. We aren't gonna' be quiet anymore, the "straight man" has gone too far lately. 

Here is to some LGBT community pride. 

-JayEmCee

I Give a Damn Campaigne

I teared when I saw that new PSA, because it felt great to finally know some does GIVE A DAMN.


(http://www.wegiveadamn.org/ Check it out)


The sad fact is that some many teens had to die before anyone realized gay bashing was wrong. I don't think straight people will ever understand how scary it really is to bi-sexual/gay/lesbian. It's the most terrible feeling knowing your family won't accept you. Outside of my own house hold everyone else is Catholic, and though I wouldn't be terribly shunned...I wouldn't be totally accepted.


But I know there will always be my friends, because friends don't judge you as much as your family does. So as long you have friends, it doesn't matter what your family thinks. You'll grow up, you'll move out, you'll run away and move in with a friend, whatever it takes, you have the power to control your life.


Just because parents are adults doesn't mean they always do the right thing. If your parents aren't supportive ,or even abusive because of your sexual orientation--you need to realize there is always another way. Your not trapped for life, because you have the power to free yourself from discrimination, by surrounding yourself by people who love and accept you.


Find those people, and tell them how much you appreciate them.


-Jay Em Cee

The Closets After: The Closets Your Still In After "Coming Out"

The first closet may be the scariest and most difficult to come out of, but it's not the only closet you'll ever have to exit. It doesn't matter if you were deep in the closet finding x-mas presents, or gasping the knob for years...there is still a second (and maybe even third closet). 


People may know your out, you may speak about being out, but your only out of the first closet. Though the general public may know your out ; you still keep our orientation deep inside around family members.You refrain from making any comments about the same sex, and are careful about what impression you give. 


This is what I call the second closet. Exiting the second closet is easier then you think. You can start by making minor comments, and having small talk about your sexuality. Hell before I knew it my mom and I became comfortable with speaking about my ex girl friends. She even one night approached me with a bunch of questions about my orientation. 


Talk to people , because more and more you'll find if your open, people will be interested. Your voice will be heard, and most likely you'll be accepted. Not for being gay/bi-sexual/etc , but for being yourself. After coming out of  the second closet don't be discouraged if you have trouble with the third. 


The third one is so minor yet in your life it can be major. I myself will admit to suffering from the third closet scare. This is when you hide the most minor things even though your "completely" out. You hide your text messages, e-mails, Google searches. The smallest things that don't affect any one's life , but yours. 


The funny thing is , it's all in your head. Right now I am blogging in at my dad's job, and even I got shakey about it. One of my co-workers leaned over to see what I was doing and I switched to my other tab. Last night I thought of closing my door while looking at "Pride" websites. 


I realized I didn't need to, all 3 my family members know I'm bi. I wear rainbow outfits occasionally, and talk about it. 


Right now I'm blogging at my dad's job in an office. The door is open, and people are walking around me...but I'm not ashamed. Let them see if they wish. 


I'm blogging about my sexual orientation in public. 


I'm reaching out of my third closet. Because I am proud of my orientation, and all of what comes with it.


I'm stepping my first foot out, and feeling the fresh air. 


-Jay Em Cee

New to Blogger not new to Blogs :D

I've been looking along time now for a place to write along-side people, but everyone seems to have their own thing going on. So I figured WTF why not write my own shit. 

I'm 15 , I'm a bisexual teenager who has been out for 3 years now, and looking to speak about it. I have pride in who I am , and that I'm anything but the "norm".  I hope to see a day when every one is proud to be who they are, and never be ashamed of what they are/who they aren't. 

One of my most influential  role models said to me, "If your gonna' be a fag , be the best damn fag you can be! If your gonna' be a hoe , be the best damn who hoe you can be..." The point is accept your self. 

I'm writing this for me,  you, the kid in your school who gets bullied for being gay, the one family member you have that never comes around because they are gay, I'm here for all of us together. 

Join me in making this a better place for all members of the LGBT community, or even those who just seek to understand us. 

I reach out my love to all of us who have been picked on at school, looked down upon by their parents, or just have been too scared to come out. 

I'm here to let you know that there is always some one there; just open your eyes and look. Don't ever be silenced by the judgment of others. Be you, be all of you, be the true you, and never be who others want you to be. 

-Jay Em Cee 

(I'll cut this one short , because I'm getting sappy and tearing up. )